Life is so… whatever.

“To pick a rose, you ask your hand to bleed.”

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Today in my Eng11 class we talked about love. Come to think of it, we always talk about love in Eng11 (the three short stories we’ve tackled so far have all been about love), but today’s short storiy is something many people will probably relate to.

The story was James Joyce’s Araby, which is about a boy who has a huge crush on his friend and neighbor’s sister. They’re not close but he’s so fascinated by and attracted to her that one day he even goes to a bazaar late at night just so he could get her something (because he promised to do so if he goes to the bazaar). In the end he doesn’t get anything after all since most of the shops are closed already. It is then that he realizes his foolishness: he is so willing to inconvenience himself for her, when he probably doesn’t mean anything to her. Of course all this was said in such a subtle manner that I wouldn’t even have gotten the point if we didn’t discuss it in class. (Yes, I’m sorry, I suck in literature analysis. When my prof discusses the figurativeness and metaphoricalness of the stories we read I’m like, “Ok, I didn’t see that coming. How could he have gathered all that from just one word/phrase/sentence???” LOL.)


So, we compared the three stories we’ve read so far regarding how love is portrayed. Moonlight by Guy de Maupassant showed that love is divine (yes, I gathered this from class and not from my own understanding, LOL), while The Horse-Dealer’s Daughter by D.H.Lawrence showed that love is complex (again, prof’s words, not mine). Araby tells, however, of unrequited love. I know at least one person who’d be affected by this, LOL. (*ehem*tamaan na ang guilty*ehem*)

The problem with the boy in the story is that he is such a romantic. Not just romantic as in the type who gets so easily kilig, but as my prof said, romantic as in he idealizes things. He sees (or thinks he sees anyway) more than what really is, like when the girl talks to him, he thinks she might like him when really she’s just probably being polite or something. My prof said that “A romantic person sees something wow, beyond the reality, but when he gets disappointed, it’s also great.” Being a closet romantic, I know exactly what this means, and I’m sure some/most of you do too (*ehem again LOL*).

Girls are naturally romantic creatures; we see everything as a potential sign that the object of our affections might possibly return our feelings. Every smile, “Hi” or even look makes us kilig. Of course sometimes (or all the time, depending on who you ask), said object of affections might not return our feelings, and after all the kilig, such a discovery… well… hurts like hell.

But we do it anyway. Why do we love (or crush on or whatever) even if it hurts? Because “to pick a rose, you ask your hand to bleed.” Kasi malay mo, rose na pala yun. As Rob said, “Love will keep you from losing hope.” And so we hope against all odds. Kaya masakit pag biglang ayaw nya pala ma-pick. :(

So what’s the lesson here? Guys, ingat ingat, baka may pinapakilig na kayo. Girls, wag mag-expect/kiligin masyado even if it goes against our romantic nature, because expectation leads to disappointment.

Grabe, affected ba masyado sa discussion? Haha. Si Imang kasi eh, nagdrama as usual. Yak, nangsisi pa. :P But Eng11 is so my favorite subject for this sem. I learn so much… about pop culture, about society, and of course, about love. :)


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December 10, 2007 at 8:22 pm

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  1. weh. ray2, i bet kahit hindi nagdrama si fatima, you’d come up with the same insights sa entry mo e. haha.

    ay. oo nga. why do we have to have that nature? so extremely tiring.


    December 10, 2007 at 9:29 pm

  2. Haha onga. I just needed an excuse (trying to still be a “closet” romantic when I’m so out na eh hahaha).

    Yeah. If we weren’t such romantics, wala na sanang drama sa buhay.


    December 10, 2007 at 9:52 pm

  3. Saka andami ko talagang nakukuhang insights sa Eng11 prof ko.. Pati about how to look at/analyze movies, tv shows and syempre books, why local TV sucks, the imagery behind things.. Galing ng prof ko eh, daming kwento. English is so my favorite subject na ulit, haha.


    December 10, 2007 at 10:05 pm

  4. no comment na lang.. baka kung ano pang masabi ko.. mahirap na…


    December 10, 2007 at 10:40 pm

  5. Hahahaha. :P


    December 11, 2007 at 7:39 pm

  6. Guys, ingat ingat, baka may pinapakilig na kayo.



    December 15, 2007 at 3:26 pm

  7. Yihee Cecile, aminin mo na, nakakarelate ka din eh… :P


    December 15, 2007 at 4:51 pm

  8. Speaking of Joyce, there is an animated version of “The Boarding House” from Dubliners that can be viewed here:


    January 11, 2008 at 3:14 am

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